Being a mom, as you know, takes a lot of time and patience. It is one of the most rewarding jobs I have, but it can often times be a thankless job. Having two children in the home is a challenge. Sometimes, I wonder how I even made it this long. The question then comes to mind, do I want more children?
We will get to my answer later, but let me ask you. Do you want more children? It’s okay if the answer is no. This is what I want to talk about today. It is okay, if you don’t want to have any more children. It’s not the end of the world and no one thinks that you are horrible mom because you don’t desire to have more than 1 or 2 children. I know some moms who truly desire to have only one child. Unfortunately, society has this misplaced idea of what the “standard” family looks like. Not only have a lot of us fallen into this idea of what the standard family looks like, but we have also pushed this same idea onto other moms thinking we are giving out useful advice. This is not true.
It is already difficult for us to find our own space and our own path as moms without comparisons. We don’t need anything or anyone else pushing us further down the rabbit hole. I also want to take time to share that it’s also okay if you want to have 5 kids. I’ve heard so many women who unintentionally make some moms feel bad for wanting to have more children. I have personally experienced this myself and can honestly say that it is very frustrating. For moms to really find the support system we need, we also have to understand that we cannot have it both ways. We cannot expect a loving circle to form around us, but refuse to do the same for other moms.
We need to accept that every family looks different. We were not created to imitate each other, but to imitate Christ. What better way to do that than to extend grace, show love, give support, and watch God make you a better mom for it.
~ As for the Coleman crew, we fully plan to expand our family 🙂